I never tell my children we are poor. I tell them we can’t afford things.
We can’t afford to eat fancy meals because…
- We don’t have time to make them.
- We don’t have enough money to pay someone else to make them.
We can’t afford to buy a new outfit because…
- We don’t have room to store more clothes.
- We don’t have time to take care of more clothes.
- We don’t have enough money to pay someone else to take care of them .
For me being poor is trying to live above my means.
It’s a simple equation.
You do it
You get someone else to do it
You go without.
If you choose to spend money you don’t have or time that should be used for other things then you will be a slave to debt and that is a very difficult hole to get out of.
I am trying to get healthy after being in debt nutritionally for 43 years.
I am trying to get my house in order after being in debt with bad personal habits for 43 years.
I am trying to educate myself after spending my former life wasting time pouring nonsense into my head.
How are you in debt?
Are you eating food that, if not today, will someday cause a serious illness in you or your family?
Do you have piles of unfinished laundry that you don’t have the time or energy to take care of?
Do you have a house that is too big for you to keep clean?
Do you have a yard that you can’t maintain?
Do you go from one hobby to the next, leaving the rest of your life in chaos?
I hate ugly things. I hate rushing. I hate looking for things. I hate messes. I hate feeling out of control.
I want things clean and pretty and easy. A friend of mine said the same three chickens keep flying out of their fence. Instead of wasting time catching those three chickens every day or clipping their wings they are just going to eat them. Harsh.
It’s also harsh to get rid of the clothes you can’t take care of and the house you can’t clean and the lawn you can’t mow. What if you could walk away from all of that excess and live a peaceful, manageable, purposeful life? Wouldn’t it feel so great?
I don’t want to be poor so I’m trying really hard to live within my means. Obviously not hard enough because I continue to fail every day but I’m doing the best I can with my circumstances.
That’s all I can afford to do.